[vc_row row_height_percent=”0″ override_padding=”yes” h_padding=”2″ top_padding=”3″ bottom_padding=”3″ overlay_alpha=”50″ gutter_size=”3″ column_width_percent=”100″ shift_y=”0″ z_index=”0″ uncode_shortcode_id=”193516″][vc_column column_width_use_pixel=”yes” gutter_size=”3″ overlay_alpha=”50″ shift_x=”0″ shift_y=”0″ shift_y_down=”0″ z_index=”0″ medium_width=”0″ mobile_width=”0″ width=”1/1″ column_width_pixel=”900px” uncode_shortcode_id=”167183″][vc_column_text uncode_shortcode_id=”138409″]You have invented something new: you climb on me, and you half standing drink from my breast. I feel my heartbeat echoing in your stomach and I go back to the first time I heard your heartbeat.
The first ultrasound of my pregnancy. You were nine weeks and you were already asserting yourself, our baby. Your father and I hadn’t been together very long, but I knew then that you would come. After a summer full of holidays and festivals you started to exist. Was it Berlin, on the French coast or somewhere on a Wadden Island? What I did know is that you are made of love, my little girl. You came from so much love and happiness, and I felt it too, but I also encountered another side. A dark side that hurt, that sometimes brought fear and uncertainty and made me nauseous.
I was so tense for a while, and I felt really bad sometimes. It was difficult at times, while I thought: I must be very happy, right?
But you don’t hear about this from friends. Sometimes it seems like you are expected to be pregnant all the time. It is, but it is also a huge challenge for body and mind. I therefore advocate that we be more honest, and that we talk more about it. Much more!
A large proportion of pregnant women, especially in the early stages of pregnancy, are extremely nauseous. If you are unlucky you also vomit every day and that can make you feel really bad. You should be happy, but it seems like your happiness can’t connect with your body for a while. You become exhausted, and without energy it is very difficult to enjoy a new life ahead.
Try not to ask too much of yourself in those moments. A new life is growing inside you, at an insane speed. This takes so much energy! Therefore be gentle with yourself and do not demand that you still have to be able to do everything. Accept grumpiness, be lifeless. Drink extra water or tea, eat small amounts. And take naps, OMG take naps! Put some crackers on your nightstand so you can eat them before you get up. And know this: Your pregnancy lasts nine months, that nausea is getting less, really. When you start to feel better physically, there will automatically be more room for happiness. Practice this mantra that you can use in a young motherhood as a new mom: Everything is a phase, everything is a phase, everything is a phase.
It is also important that you keep talking. With your partner, your mother, a friend, or maybe someone who is a little further away from you. You are not alone. There are also great groups to be found online. And we, at Mom & co also try to create that connection or be there for you in another way, in addition to our pregnancy course.
Dear mom, sometimes it’s so crazy that being pregnant. It made me stronger and more decisive than ever, but I also experienced anxious and lonely moments and it’s all part of it. So keep talking! About the beautiful and the difficult. Trust that you are doing it right. For yourself and for that other heartbeat that beats inside you.
Love, Maria.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]
